Q. Do you really enjoy doing this?
A. Yes, I can say honestly that it is something I am glad I started. My life is pretty boring and straight laced, so this is a wonderful outlet for me. I enjoy having a secret. I have met such interesting people and have had so many memorable experiences. It has taught me so much about sex and sexuality, I have always had an interest in Psychology and Anthropology and I guess that is part of what made me want to delve deeper into this world. It has made me much more open minded, less judgemental and with a better understanding of the complexities of the human condition, oh, and also a whole lot better in bed 🙂 I intend to keep this as an enjoyable pastime and that is why I limit my bookings and only with people I think have a similar wavelength. I have been told my demeanour is very genuine and natural, and this is due to making an effort to try and only meet people I feel suited to.
Q. Is there anyone you don’t see?
People who are unable to communicate with me respectfully. It is extremely important to me that you treat me with respect and see me as a human being and an equal. I do not discriminate against anyone for their ethnicity, nationality, weight, looks, disability etc. I am more interested in your demeanour and how well we can converse. I also do not wish to meet anyone racist, homophobic or otherwise discriminatory to those that are different to them. This also includes expressing disdain for sex workers that are deemed “low class”. Also, I would prefer that you keep your politics to yourself, or at least keep it light, especially if we are only recently acquainted, There is a time and a place for discussing controversial/divisive topics. I prefer to see clients that are at least in their early thirties, but I have had a few great experiences with people younger than this who felt inexperienced, so if this is the case please contact me and we can see if we might get along. There is no upper age limit, I love older gentlemen.
Q. I would like to bring you a gift, what would you like?
A. Firstly, that is extremely kind of you. Gifts are never expected, but if you really would like to bring something I’m not going to say no! I am a real lover of practical gifts, not really one for toiletries, sweets or flowers. I often list things I have my eye on in my wishlist. Mostly books relevant to my studies or interests, these are probably my favourite things to receive. I also love silver needle tea, Buckwheat tea and good quality Japanese Matcha, Polaroid 600 film and excellent olive oils. I should mention I am an infrequent drinker so alcohol is a bit wasted on me.
Q. I am concerned about safety, what precautions do you take?
A. So am I! This is why I am selective with who I meet, I need to be. I need to get an idea of who you are and what you are about before we can meet, so I can feel comfortable and secure. I also visit a clinic every 6 weeks at a minimum for a full sexual health screening. I have also been fully vaccinated against Hep B. I take my health and personal safety very seriously and have never contracted a STD and want to try and continue to keep myself as safe as possible. So I ask that you respect this and not be offended at any precautions I feel I need to take to protect myself. Any requests or attempts at unprotected genital contact will mean we will never meet again. Likewise any pressure, requests or attempts (however light-hearted or jokey) to do anything I have informed you I do not wish to do will result in the same. You may not see yourself as having any bad intentions, but it corrodes my trust in your ability to respect my boundaries and so I have a zero tolerance policy in regards to this. It may seem a little harsh, but stealthing is unfortunately becoming more prevalent. I myself have had personal experience of this by a client I had known for a long time time and completely trusted. Having to wait up to 3 months for your test results (HIV & Syphilis can take this long to show up) is very distressing, not to mention to the emotional hurt of being violated like that, so don’t make this about you.
Q. What will you wear for the meeting? Can I request something?
A. As a standard, I like to dress in a discreet and understated, natural manner. I will not dress in a provocative or overtly sexy way. The reasons for this are; number one, discretion is very important to me and I do not wish for anyone to have suspicions about the basis of our meeting, London is a pretty casual city, even in the most upmarket venues. Also the majority of my clients are much older than me, and I think this can make it screamingly obvious if I am not dressed demurely Secondly, I have a wide circle of friends and colleagues here in London, and being a minimalist, low key dresser, it would be immediately noticeable to anyone if I was to bump into them that something was amiss if they saw me dressed unusually. Lastly, and most importantly, I want to feel comfortable and like myself when we meet, not like I am dressing in some kind of uniform or costume. Don’t worry, I enjoy clothes and like to spend time on my appearance, I will never be scruffy or unkempt! Just dressed in a way that makes me feel comfortable and sexy. I wrote a blog post about this that is more in-depth.
Q. Can you be available short notice?
A. At the moment, no. I do understand that sometimes it is hard to plan and you just have to grab the time when it unexpectedly comes up, but currently my availability is too limited, so I normally need at least a weeks notice. If things ease up for me in the future this might change.